what about pruity

I think on the most part just a few months ago I would of agreed that paul was a little drastic.I wasn't brought up in a Christian home. I lived in the world until I was 20. But I didn't understand womanhood or manhood at all. Before I was saved I went after guys, and guys came after me where no rules. I dated for fun, not for marriage. When I was saved, although I was dead to my old self my pattern was still somewhat the same in many things. So I started dating a guy. God had freed , even although God had freed me from my pas or us freeing me, I had a desire to be Pure now that I knew Christ.. I had said I wouldn't kiss unless we were to be married. But we did so many other things wrong, like hanging out alone, not having family part of it.. We based on what we felt. it wasn’t biblical it was base on emotions not on Gods will. We have to be careful our hearts can fool us. I was sending all my time with him alone. No one said it was wrong. I couldn't see things clearly because my emotions were keeping me to see. I learned a lot about right and wrong ways of relationship, from it. and how unwise we can be. We are alone with another. We think we are strong. But all I was doing was seeing so close I could get before sinning. Very unwise. Who knows what others thought, I sure when it was meant to be good, look bad. But being alone with guys never really hit as you need to be ver carful, but there was were sometime it was just fine. until I came to Tucson, my whole world has been turned upside down. And I listen to Paul washer sermon dating..YUmm.. I was praying alone with guys, I was on a prayer team.. I couldn't help I said one else came? and driving in the car alone with brothers. It was safe and fine, just a ride. After they were just brothers. I posted on SI about being alone in the car with a guy, from what people said I took it to heart and started praying about it. What is good in your eyes God? ANd why? Should I never be alone with a guy? and why? I remember paul west posting about never be alone with a guy or guy with a women unless family. Why such rules? Now when I was at the prayer tent I have a guy walk me to me car, and saw nothing wrong with that, it was only when he tried to stay and talk with me for a while.. Of course I think life things come and there can never a firm line, but there can be many other lines drawn to help.. I think there more to be pure, when we hang out alone, it seem evil..But at least from what I have learned is it the best safe guard for my heart and emotions. I think that we can still be friends and talk with our brothers. and pray and such. But John Piper talks about true womanhood and manhood. My father is not living anymore, so who would a guy go to? If he is to go the father? Should a guy go to the father first, before trying to talk with a lady? and why? I have seen this to be true, How sweet and wonderful it is when it happens. Both of my friends husband did this. I think it bring safety to the women. I wrote this just a few months ago..after talking with a friend on SIAfter I went AL I had some crazy things in the way I see things and God said you need to set rules.. Lady my dear sisters, there many guys out there that don't how to respect young lady with purity please keep your self safe to. as for you guys I know some you this doesn’t apply and I thank you for being a good role model for me. I thank you all. may God grow us to be more pure.It is my desire to keep my heart and emotions pure."Save yourself emotionally for your husband, for your wife. I believe that God’s best, God’s perfect will, God’s sweetest order, as much as possible is that you be a virgin physically, and emotionally when you enter into this matter of marriage.""Why? I’m saving them for the most precious woman/man in my life. I don’t know who she is yet, but I’m saving them for her. Sorry all of you other young ladies/ guys, this is a prized possession, and I’m saving these emotion for the precious young lady of my life’s partner."I desire to not allow my feeling to overflow for no one but the man I will someday marry."My heart is overflowing with love for you and I want you to know that it’s never overflowed before. I’ve been tempted for it to overflow but I’ve stopped it. By the grace of God, I didn’t allow it to stay". That’s a beautiful way to start, and that’s the right place to end."No defrauding "stir up desires, that they cannot lawfully fulfill" Not being a flirt. Not playing with lovetaking your responsibilities- Please lead when neededNever going to be alone with a guy, in a car or in homeNever going to pray alone, maybe at Church with others aroundNever talking on the phone, with personal mattersOnly hanging in groupsPlease don't ask my number for personal reasonsPlease open doors, pull out chair See me as your little sisterAct like a brother acting towards me in purityTime spent, in groupsNot dating, only that leads to marriage.I know I far understanding is all I am asking God to keep growing me to be a women of purity.